18| Feel the Fear w/ Max Nachamkin

18| Feel the Fear w/ Max Nachamkin

Quote From the Episode:

“When you do anything from a fear based mindset that fear will return to you until you feel that fear completely”

– Max Nachamkin

About Max Nachamkin:

Max Nachamkin is a dating and relationships coach with a very unique, spiritual perspective.

In This Episode:

  • Why Max believes that confidence is a myth and that what men really need to strive for is self-trust.
  • How confidence is really a byproduct of your ability to feel all of your emotions.
  • You can’t fix your confidence issues by approaching women if all you are doing is seeking approval.
  • The value of asking yourself questions to get at the root of your issues so that you can get to what you want.
  • The only way to see your own blind spots is to be around other people.
  • Why self-identity is malleable and why Max believes that the ultimate goal is to have no identity at all.
  • How to disassociate your self-identity from your thoughts.
  • Why affirmations actually reinforce negative beliefs.
  • Once you can get your own insecurities handled you become aware of just how insecure everyone around you really is.
  • Why the only way to overcome fear is to expose yourself to it and feel it completely
  • Why Max is believes that it is important to rid yourself of fear before committing to a monogamous relationship.
  • If you play games, that is what you will get in return.

Advice:

Do Nothing! You’ll have to listen to understand Max’s meaning behind this. Trust me, it actually makes quite a bit of sense.

Links & Resources:

Max’s survey to get a customized dating action plan: http://maxnachamkin.com/mdm

Subscription Options:

If you enjoyed the episode then please subscribe, rate and review the show in one of the following podcast directories:

iTunes

Stitcher

TuneIn Radio

Comments:

If you have any comments, questions or suggestions regarding this episode, you can leave them below or email me directly at alec@mensdatingmastery.com.

17| The Misconceptions About Nice Guys w/ Kevin Alexander

17| The Misconceptions About Nice Guys w/ Kevin Alexander

Quote From the Episode:

“The art of seduction is making somebody want more. That is what teasing is. When you give in, the seduction is over.”

– Keving Alexander

About Kevin Alexander:

Kevin Alexander is a dating coach, podcaster and author who specializes in helping shy, introverted guys who are tired of being rejected for being nice guy improve their dating and social skills.

In This Episode:

  • How nice guys can start to finish first with women by living out their truth, their passion and their vision
  • Two types of nice guys; the nasty nice guy who has negative beliefs about positive experiences, and the nice guy that women are actually looking for
  • Why guys with a strong self-identity tied to being a “nice guy” actually have an egotistical belief system
  • You need to work on your fashion, diet, exercise and social skills; you cannot expect to have the good life without putting in the work
  • The notion that women like jerks and assholes is really just you putting your problems on somebody else
  • If you can combine being a genuinely nice guy with the attractive tendencies of “jerks” and “assholes”, you will become completely unstoppable
  • The three traits of “jerks and assholes” that women find attractive: leave her wanting more, dominance and decisiveness
  • The true meaning of confidence
  • Excuses that guys make for not going for sex on a first date
  • The right time to initiate sex with a new woman
  • The fascinating history behind the “Madonna Whore Complex”

Advice:

Quite simply, never give up.

Links & Resources:

Subscription Options:

If you enjoyed the episode then please subscribe, rate and review the show in one of the following podcast directories:

iTunes

Stitcher

TuneIn Radio

Comments:

If you have any comments, questions or suggestions regarding this episode, you can leave them below or email me directly at alec@mensdatingmastery.com.

16| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 2 of 2

16| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 2 of 2

Quote From the Episode:

“Our life callings are always in our moments of crises. With every moment of crises there is something for all of us to learn”

– Frank Kermit

About Frank Kermit:

There is a lot to be said about Frank Kermit. Just the fact that he is considered the coaches’ coach, speaks volumes. Frank is a Dating and Relationship expert, a Certified Trauma Counsellor, Certified Hypnotherapist, the author of numerous books, columnist and a regular presence in the media. He is a man with a big heart who is truly out to help people. His personal life story is one of pain, perseverance, giving, triumph and inspiration.

The Highlights:

How Frank was able to establish multiple polyamorous relationships with women who had previously never been exposed to this lifestyle. Plus the remaining five of the ten emotional needs of women:

6. Protection of reputation

7. Emotional Range

8. Cater to the Little Girl

9. Dominance/Assertiveness

10. Fear of Abandonment

Show Summary:

Parts 1 and 2 of this episode are about the emotional needs of women and how men can address them in order to create and maintain attraction. Frank Kermit has grouped these needs into ten distinct categories, which are highly interrelated so parts 1 and 2 of this episode should be listened to in sequence.

There are two critical concepts underpinning these emotional needs. First, it must be understood that emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or what is even good for them. This is typically formulated by the way we learn to survive as children.

The second concept, when looking at the emotional needs of women is Frank’s “Mother Lover Theory”. The idea is that a woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. When he violates one of these ten emotional needs, he evokes the mothering instinct, when he meets them, he evokes the lover. The remaining five needs, covered in this Part 2 of this episode are as follows:

6 – Trust and Honesty: Prove that you are not afraid to upset her with the truth. If she knows that you are not going to lie to her just to avoid the unpleasantness of her bad mood, she will trust you.

7 – Protection and Safety: This can take on many forms and does not necessarily mean the ability to physically overpower others. Are you willing to take a hit to protect her? Make sure that she doesn’t slip on the ice in the winter time? Make sure she doesn’t have to walk alone at night? If he is looking out for her safety, her guard goes down and she doesn’t need to be a mother (even for herself), which frees her to the lover.

8 – Can You Handle/Accept Her Sexuality? If she is a virgin, if she used to strip, if there are sexual acts that she cannot do, if she has some kind of fetish, etc. can you handle it?

9 – High Quality Sperm: This is inheritable genetic material some of which is within the man’s control and so of which is not. Wealth, status, genes, education, ability to provide are a few examples among many. The easiest way to demonstrate this “high quality sperm” is to show her that other women are interested in you. Beware that many guys get used with this emotional need.

10 –Prove That You Are Not a Closet Homosexual: Guys will often give off signs, without realizing it, that they would rather be with men. If a man is constantly leaving his girlfriend behind to hang out with the guys, if he never brings women around or even talks about them, women may start to wonder.

In addition to covering these emotional needs of women, Frank also shares a fascinating story about how he was able to have multiple polyamorous relationships with women who had previously not been polyamorous.

Advice:

Don’t put pressure on yourself to be perfect; there is a learning curve. If you are a guy who is ending up in the friend zone, you are half way there. Also, Frank offers advice on how to select the right school of thought or coaching that will suit your needs.

Contact Frank Kermit:

Website: www.franktalks.com

Subscription Options:

If you enjoyed the episode then please subscribe, rate and review the show in one of the following podcast directories:

iTunes

Stitcher

TuneIn Radio

Comments:

If you have any comments, questions or suggestions regarding this episode, you can leave them below or email me directly at alec@mensdatingmastery.com.

 

15| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 1 of 2

15| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 1 of 2

 Quote From the Episode:

“Our life callings are always in our moments of crises. With every moment of crises there is something for all of us to learn”

– Frank Kermit

About Frank Kermit:

There is a lot to be said about Frank Kermit. Just the fact that he is considered the coaches’ coach, speaks volumes. Frank is a Dating and Relationship expert, a Certified Trauma Counsellor, Certified Hypnotherapist, the author of numerous books, columnist and a regular presence in the media. He is a man with a big heart who is truly out to help people. His personal life story is one of pain, perseverance, giving, triumph and inspiration.

The Highlights:

  • Emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or even what is good for them.
  • A person’s unique emotional needs are formulated by the way that they learned to survive in childhood.
  • A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life: the mother or the lover. She cannot be both.
  • The first five of the ten emotional needs of women:
  1. Protection of reputation
  2. Emotional Range
  3. Cater to the Little Girl
  4. Dominance/Assertiveness
  5. Fear of Abandonment

Show Summary:

Parts 1 and 2 of this episode are about the emotional needs of women and how men can address them in order to create and maintain attraction. Frank Kermit has grouped these needs into ten distinct categories, which are highly interrelated so parts 1 and 2 of this episode should be listened to in sequence.

There are two critical concepts underpinning these emotional needs. First, it must be understood that emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or what is even good for them. This is typically formulated by the way we learn to survive as children.

The second concept, when looking at the emotional needs of women is Frank’s “Mother Lover Theory”. The idea is that a woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. When he violates one of these ten emotional needs, he evokes the mothering instinct, when he meets them, he evokes the lover. The first five needs, covered in this Part 1 of this episode are as follows:

1 – Protection of Her Reputation: Reputation is a person’s most valuable asset. The man must demonstrate that he protects his reputation as well as the reputation of all people. Even if he has been wronged by that person. Addressing this one specific behavior can completely change how women will treat a man.

2 – Emotional Range: Women tend to have greater emotional sophistication than men and are therefore able to handle them better. Experiencing a range of emotions, is what allows a woman to feel alive. Another word for emotional range is drama. How wide of an emotional range she needs to experience and whether it is healthy will vary from woman to woman. For a man to manage a relationship, he should first determine how much of an emotional range he can handle and then seek out a woman who gives him that level of emotional range or lower.

3 – Cater to The Little Girl: If a woman feels safe enough to feel like a little girl with you, she can relax and let go of her mothering instinct.

4 – Dominance/Assertiveness: Be able to make a decision and to set boundaries. Leaving the decision making to her, forces the woman into a mothering role. It is OK to ask for her opinion, but own the responsibility for deciding.

5 – Fear of Abandonment: This is not about making life long commitments, which is unrealistic. Rather, she wants to know what she needs to do to earn your commitment. It is the predictability of knowing what it will take to keep you. Frank also explains how you can stop being with somebody without abandoning them.

Advice:

Tune into part 2 of this interview for Frank’s final words of advice.

Contact Frank Kermit:

Website: www.franktalks.com

Subscription Options:

If you enjoyed the episode then please subscribe, rate and review the show in one of the following podcast directories:

iTunes

Stitcher

TuneIn Radio

Comments:

If you have any comments, questions or suggestions regarding this episode, you can leave them below or email me directly at alec@mensdatingmastery.com.

14| Using Body Language to Create Attraction w/ Patty Contenta

14| Using Body Language to Create Attraction w/ Patty Contenta

Quote From the Episode:

“Charisma is the ability to leave someone with a better impression of themselves and of you”

– Frank Kermit

About Patty Contenta:

Patty Contenta is a professional ball room dancer, teacher and judge with over 25 years of experience. She uses her dance background to help people improve their body language by applying concepts from dance to movement in everyday life.

The Highlights:

How dance can help you improve your body language in daily life.

Bad posture, poor eye contact and nervous energy are among the biggest pitfalls for guys in the area of body language.

Being alpha is not just about appearing dominant it is also about being able to “vibe” with the other person.

Exude physical charisma by taking up more space, having a clam energy and observing.

Amply your charisma with social virtues, Appreciation, Connection, Elevating the Mood and Self-Expression (ACES).

The right way to build attraction through touch.

Practice being still as a first step to avoid overwhelming yourself with hundreds of potential body language cues all at once.

Do women judge how man is in the bedroom by the way he moves on the dance floor?

Show Summary:

This is an episode with a lot of very specific and actionable advice on improving and interpreting body language, giving good eye contact, exuding charisma and building attraction with women.

We start the conversation by talking about some of the most common pitfalls for guys when it comes to body language. These are poor posture, lack of eye contact and nervous energy which, causes guys to move around too much or fidget.

We discuss the notion of alpha males and how guys, in an effort to appear alpha, will overcompensate by dominating conversations or exuding erratic energy. In the process, this just makes them look like they are not socially attuned. A true alpha, aside from being strong, is a man who can make those around him feel comfortable. Patty points out that good communication, is not only about demonstrating confidence but also about “vibing” with the other person.

She also explains charisma, which she breaks down into physical characteristics and social virtues. On the physical side, charisma can ben exuded by taking up more physical space via good posture, having a calm energy and knowing how to hang back and observe. The social virtues, are neatly summed up with the acronym ACES, which Patty defines as follows:

A – Appreciation

C – Connection

E – Elevating the mood

S – Self Expression

We then discuss the importance of touch in building attraction and Patty provides very specific examples of how and when it can be used, including what to do when you are unsure if she is open to touch. Timing, watching for cues, context and where you touch are all factors that need to be kept in mind and Patty provides very specific guidance on these.

We discuss specific non-verbal cues that a woman may give a man as an invitation to approach or otherwise interact. These include how she holds her body, facial expressions and gestures, along with other signs.

Given that there are potentially hundreds of specific body language cues that a man can pay attention in himself and in others, we provide tips on how to best start making improvements in this area without getting overwhelmed. Patty advises that posture and afore mentioned social virtues alone will make a tremendous positive impact. In addition, to avoid feeling overwhelmed, one can start by being still, minimizing movement all together and then gradually introducing various body language elements one at a time.

To wrap up the conversation, Patty provides her take on whether it is true that women will judge how man is in the bedroom based on the way he moves on the dance floor. This might get a chuckle but the insight are real!

Advice:

If you focus on anything then focus on posture and developing your social virtues. If you are overwhelmed by the nuances of body language then start by being still and then introduce the various elements one at a time.

Contact Patty Contenta:

Website: www.sensualitysecrets.com

Email: patty@sensualitysecrets.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePattyContenta

Subscription Options:

If you enjoyed the episode then please subscribe, rate and review the show in one of the following podcast directories:

iTunes

Stitcher

TuneIn Radio

Comments:

If you have any comments, questions or suggestions regarding this episode, you can leave them below or email me directly at alec@mensdatingmastery.com.