21| A Realistic Perspective on Marriage and Going for What You Want w/ Steve Horsmon

21| A Realistic Perspective on Marriage and Going for What You Want w/ Steve Horsmon

Quote From the Episode:

“There is no such thing as simultaneous mutuality in a relationship”

– Steve Horsmon

About Steve Horsmon:

Steve Horsmon is a men’s coach who specializes in working with men who are at the very end of saving a relationship or at the very beginning of starting a new life with women.

In This Episode:

  • A realistic take on marriage, what it’s really about, why they fail and why many of the ones that last do so in a state of mediocrity.
  • Why marriage marks the beginning of your growth as a man.
  • Why women are uniquely designed to test men and to trigger all their insecurities.
  • The two assumptions underpinning mainstream advice to save a marriage or long term relationship, and why they are flawed.
  • Why a relationship is not a fifty-fifty partnership.
  • Every relationship that struggles and survives, does so because the man takes leadership in changing the emotional energy of the relationship.
  • Women want the man to step up and lead the way to emotional safety.
  • Speaking your truth and asking for what you want regardless of the consequences, even if it risks ending the relationship.
  • Why you shouldn’t give a crap about what your woman thinks about you.
  • Do man shit test women?
  • The anthropology behind women shit testing men.
  • Why therapists recommend to “fake it till you make it”.
  • Why using “techniques” in a relationship can be destructive.
  • The importance of being crystal clear about what you want and communicating it.

Contact Steve Horsmon:

Website: www.goodguys2greatmen.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/goodguys2greatmen

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20|Dating Models & Celebrities and Coaching High Net-Worth Clients w/ Johnny Cassell

20|Dating Models & Celebrities and Coaching High Net-Worth Clients w/ Johnny Cassell

Quote From the Episode:

“Whatever you assume is fine, is fine”

–        Johnny Cassell

About Johnny Cassell:

Johnny Cassell is an international dating coach who has been in the business since 2007. He is based in London, UK and specialized in dating for the elite.

In This Episode:

  • How dating for high net-worth men is different and how it is the same as for ordinary guys.
  • Two types of high net-worth individuals and how they are different in dating and in life.
  • How to meed and models, celebrities and women of exceptional beauty.
  • Breaking patterns in order to stand out and get what you want.
  • What is “fan mode” and how to stay out of it?
  • Getting the best return on your time to get the kind of woman you want, faster.
  • Surrounding yourself with people who are going to enable you to live the life you want.
  • Why you need to be selective about the women you choose, beyond looks.
  • When it comes to dating women, whatever you assume is fine, is fine.
  • If what is holding you back is fear of a slap in the face or an “f-off”, know that this almost never happens.
  • Meeting women is not meant to be adversarial; it’s about enjoying the process and improving someone’s day.
  • How improving his social skills and interactions with women, helped Johnny become more successful in business.
  • Don’t hang out with people who are going to stand on your toes, compete with you or sabotage your efforts.

Advice

Get a better return on you time by paying attention to your environment and the people you surround yourself by, when meeting women. And get a wing girl!

Contact Johnny Cassell:

Website: http://www.johnnycassell.com
The Impactful Connection Workshop: http://www.johnnycassell.com/workshops
Email: info@johnnycassell.com
Twitter: @johnny_cassell
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnnycassell.officialfanpage
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AboutJohnnyCassell
Instagram: @londondatingcoach

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19| Overcoming and Initiating Break-ups w/ Laura Yates

19| Overcoming and Initiating Break-ups w/ Laura Yates

Quote From the Episode:

“If you are not the right match for her, she is not the right match for you”

– Laura Yates

About Laura Yates:

Laura Yates is a relationship and dating coach specializing in helping people through break-ups and heartbreak.

In This Episode:

  • The most common issues that men encounter when dealing with a break-up.
  • Why suppressing your feelings is not an effective strategy.
  • If you are not the right match for her, she is not the right match for you.
  • Why seeking closure is really an excuse to not let go.
  • Why you don’t need the other person to get closure.
  • Strategies to recover from a break-up.
  • Why a woman might break-up with you in order to elicit a reaction rather than to actually end the relationship.
  • How to deal with an ex who is trying to re-initiate contact.
  • Dealing with feelings of inadequacy post-break-up.
  • How to identify if the problem that lead to the break-up is you and what do about it.
  • Why some guys come across as boring and how to fix it.
  • The common attraction factors that are the same for both genders.
  • How to end a relationship in a way that is compassionate and preserves your integrity, yet firm and uncompromising.

Contact Laura Yates:

Website: laurayates.org

Twitter: @laurayatesUK

Facebook: facebook.com/laura.yates

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18| Feel the Fear w/ Max Nachamkin

18| Feel the Fear w/ Max Nachamkin

Quote From the Episode:

“When you do anything from a fear based mindset that fear will return to you until you feel that fear completely”

– Max Nachamkin

About Max Nachamkin:

Max Nachamkin is a dating and relationships coach with a very unique, spiritual perspective.

In This Episode:

  • Why Max believes that confidence is a myth and that what men really need to strive for is self-trust.
  • How confidence is really a byproduct of your ability to feel all of your emotions.
  • You can’t fix your confidence issues by approaching women if all you are doing is seeking approval.
  • The value of asking yourself questions to get at the root of your issues so that you can get to what you want.
  • The only way to see your own blind spots is to be around other people.
  • Why self-identity is malleable and why Max believes that the ultimate goal is to have no identity at all.
  • How to disassociate your self-identity from your thoughts.
  • Why affirmations actually reinforce negative beliefs.
  • Once you can get your own insecurities handled you become aware of just how insecure everyone around you really is.
  • Why the only way to overcome fear is to expose yourself to it and feel it completely
  • Why Max is believes that it is important to rid yourself of fear before committing to a monogamous relationship.
  • If you play games, that is what you will get in return.

Advice:

Do Nothing! You’ll have to listen to understand Max’s meaning behind this. Trust me, it actually makes quite a bit of sense.

Links & Resources:

Max’s survey to get a customized dating action plan: http://maxnachamkin.com/mdm

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17| The Misconceptions About Nice Guys w/ Kevin Alexander

17| The Misconceptions About Nice Guys w/ Kevin Alexander

Quote From the Episode:

“The art of seduction is making somebody want more. That is what teasing is. When you give in, the seduction is over.”

– Keving Alexander

About Kevin Alexander:

Kevin Alexander is a dating coach, podcaster and author who specializes in helping shy, introverted guys who are tired of being rejected for being nice guy improve their dating and social skills.

In This Episode:

  • How nice guys can start to finish first with women by living out their truth, their passion and their vision
  • Two types of nice guys; the nasty nice guy who has negative beliefs about positive experiences, and the nice guy that women are actually looking for
  • Why guys with a strong self-identity tied to being a “nice guy” actually have an egotistical belief system
  • You need to work on your fashion, diet, exercise and social skills; you cannot expect to have the good life without putting in the work
  • The notion that women like jerks and assholes is really just you putting your problems on somebody else
  • If you can combine being a genuinely nice guy with the attractive tendencies of “jerks” and “assholes”, you will become completely unstoppable
  • The three traits of “jerks and assholes” that women find attractive: leave her wanting more, dominance and decisiveness
  • The true meaning of confidence
  • Excuses that guys make for not going for sex on a first date
  • The right time to initiate sex with a new woman
  • The fascinating history behind the “Madonna Whore Complex”

Advice:

Quite simply, never give up.

Links & Resources:

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16| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 2 of 2

16| The 10 Emotional Needs of Women w/ Frank Kermit Part 2 of 2

Quote From the Episode:

“Our life callings are always in our moments of crises. With every moment of crises there is something for all of us to learn”

– Frank Kermit

About Frank Kermit:

There is a lot to be said about Frank Kermit. Just the fact that he is considered the coaches’ coach, speaks volumes. Frank is a Dating and Relationship expert, a Certified Trauma Counsellor, Certified Hypnotherapist, the author of numerous books, columnist and a regular presence in the media. He is a man with a big heart who is truly out to help people. His personal life story is one of pain, perseverance, giving, triumph and inspiration.

The Highlights:

How Frank was able to establish multiple polyamorous relationships with women who had previously never been exposed to this lifestyle. Plus the remaining five of the ten emotional needs of women:

6. Protection of reputation

7. Emotional Range

8. Cater to the Little Girl

9. Dominance/Assertiveness

10. Fear of Abandonment

Show Summary:

Parts 1 and 2 of this episode are about the emotional needs of women and how men can address them in order to create and maintain attraction. Frank Kermit has grouped these needs into ten distinct categories, which are highly interrelated so parts 1 and 2 of this episode should be listened to in sequence.

There are two critical concepts underpinning these emotional needs. First, it must be understood that emotional needs are what a person responds to, not what they like or what is even good for them. This is typically formulated by the way we learn to survive as children.

The second concept, when looking at the emotional needs of women is Frank’s “Mother Lover Theory”. The idea is that a woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. When he violates one of these ten emotional needs, he evokes the mothering instinct, when he meets them, he evokes the lover. The remaining five needs, covered in this Part 2 of this episode are as follows:

6 – Trust and Honesty: Prove that you are not afraid to upset her with the truth. If she knows that you are not going to lie to her just to avoid the unpleasantness of her bad mood, she will trust you.

7 – Protection and Safety: This can take on many forms and does not necessarily mean the ability to physically overpower others. Are you willing to take a hit to protect her? Make sure that she doesn’t slip on the ice in the winter time? Make sure she doesn’t have to walk alone at night? If he is looking out for her safety, her guard goes down and she doesn’t need to be a mother (even for herself), which frees her to the lover.

8 – Can You Handle/Accept Her Sexuality? If she is a virgin, if she used to strip, if there are sexual acts that she cannot do, if she has some kind of fetish, etc. can you handle it?

9 – High Quality Sperm: This is inheritable genetic material some of which is within the man’s control and so of which is not. Wealth, status, genes, education, ability to provide are a few examples among many. The easiest way to demonstrate this “high quality sperm” is to show her that other women are interested in you. Beware that many guys get used with this emotional need.

10 –Prove That You Are Not a Closet Homosexual: Guys will often give off signs, without realizing it, that they would rather be with men. If a man is constantly leaving his girlfriend behind to hang out with the guys, if he never brings women around or even talks about them, women may start to wonder.

In addition to covering these emotional needs of women, Frank also shares a fascinating story about how he was able to have multiple polyamorous relationships with women who had previously not been polyamorous.

Advice:

Don’t put pressure on yourself to be perfect; there is a learning curve. If you are a guy who is ending up in the friend zone, you are half way there. Also, Frank offers advice on how to select the right school of thought or coaching that will suit your needs.

Contact Frank Kermit:

Website: www.franktalks.com

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