24| Designing Relationships A La Carte w/ Susan Winter

24| Designing Relationships A La Carte w/ Susan Winter

About Susan Winter:

As seen on OPRAH, best-selling author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) specializes in evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. She writes, speaks and coaches on accessing our inherent perfection in life and love. Media credits include: THE TODAY SHOW, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, ABC/CBS/NBC EVENING NEWS, CNN, BBC NEWS 5, COSMO, HARPERS BAZAAR, PEOPLE, GOOD HOUSEKEEPING, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, THE NEW YORK TIMES, THE HUFFINGTON POST, and THE GOOD MEN PROJECT. In radio Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, ABC, PLAYBOY NETWORK (Sirius Radio), and CBS News Radio.

In This Episode

  • Susan Winter’s personal story about how she became an evolutionary relationship expert.
  • Designing an la carte relationship that may not look normal but that is right and true for you.
  • The process of discovering the type of dating/love life that is best suited for you.
  • How healthy and fulfilling relationships can come in many forms.
  • Finding intimacy and emotional connection outside of monogamy.
  • Can a casual relationship (e.g. friends with benefits, casual sex, etc.) be appropriate for a person at a point in time?
  • Making relationships outside of traditional norms work.
  • Is it possible for a man not seeking exclusivity to be upfront about his intentions and still get the sex he wants.
  • How honesty can actually be the best form of game.
  • Finding freedom inside of a committed relationship.
  • Exploring different relationship constructs in the face of opposition from your social circle and society at large.
  • Knowing the difference between what you want and what you have been conditioned to believe you want.
  • Using “open relationship” status as a crutch to avoid intimacy.
  • What goes into a true polyamorous relationship.
  • Seeing the beauty in a relationship even if it doesn’t last forever.

Books by Susan Winter:

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Contact Susan Winter:

Website: www.susanwinter.net

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6 Comments

  1. What a fantastic interview, Alec. Thank you! I’m so pleased to have had this cutting-edge discussion on how to create real content inside a romantic design of our choosing. You’ve shared wonderful insight, and your professionalism and clarity are a real testimony to your underlying mission of creating meaningful connections through these podcasts. Bravo to you, and to Men’s Dating Mastery for excellent content! Susan

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  2. It is a conversation that I have always wanted to have and I am so glad that I got to have it with you. Thank you for such brilliant insights, Susan!

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  3. First, thank you for sharing.
    A la carte and ‘the honor game’ seems like a breath of fresh air.
    After watching, reading and listening to a bunch of (current/former) PUA’s I can clearly see what ‘camp I fall in, as I attempt to become a more desired man.

    One point of irony:
    During the A la Carte podcast, she indicated that her Playboy/Freak friend put a failed marriage under his belt…because he’s not accustomed to monogamy.
    Didn’t she, or the Playboy, consider suggesting an A la Carte relationship for this man…and his then wife?
    (And if the then wife heard the proposition and had a negative reaction to it, the Playboy and his wonderful friend and relationship ‘expert’ could have suggested that he not marry this one.)
    Apparently, in this case, what’s good for the goose, isn’t good for the gander.

    Finally, I love the concept of deciding first what will work for you…and then asking for it, unabashedly…trusting in the truth that somewhere out there, closer than you think, is someone waiting to fulfill your every request…they just didn’t know you wanted it like that. (So they were playing their ‘role.)

    Honor the truth.

    That’s my game.

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  4. Great content and super useful insights. It’s great to understand how man and women think about relationships. I totally love Susan Winter. I’ve listened another podcast with her on Art of Charm Podcast and I will definitely search for more.

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  5. I’ll probably heard this interview some three times. I really like the way Susan explain the relationships dinamic, and the agreement thing and the honesty in a relationship, there are times were that doesn’t work because people like to lie and some other hear what you saying but later they just do whatever they want. 🙁
    I am 29, I have one year relationship with a guy 8 years younger than me, and it’s has been tough because he doesn’t have as much idea of the struggle in life, but he has show me that he really loves me and take care of me. Susan advices had been such a great help to my relationship and want to say thank you, and the owner of this site too.

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  6. I’ll probably heard this interview some three times. I really like the way Susan explain the relationships dinamic, and the agreement thing and the honesty in a relationship, there are times were that doesn’t work because people like to lie and some other hear what you saying but later they just do whatever they want. 🙁
    I am 29, I have one year relationship with a guy 8 years younger than me, and it’s has been tough because he doesn’t have as much idea of the struggle in life, but he has show me that he really loves me and take care of me. Susan advices had been such a great help to my relationship and want to say thank you, and the owner of this site too.

    Reply

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